Should we Grow Up?

A Question which affects every adult during his adulthood, is whether they should grow up. Well to answer this i have to see first whether we grow up or not?

When we are babies we are still growing.
When we are in school, we are still growing.
When we are in Higher Secondary, we are little grown up, but neck deep in studies, hence not enjoying what we have then. But still growing.
When we are in College, we are grown up. Ready to take up our own decision. These decisions are our own and we fight to have the freedom to take the decisions. And mostly they are wrong. Hence we are still growing, learning, still acquiring new experience.
When we are at a job, almost everything is ours, and we should take full responsibility of our actions. That is when we have grown up.
When we are old, we are kids who are blind and deaf, but not dumb.

So when we are at jobs, having our own kids, we want to become a kid once more. So should we become a kid?

Unfinished :(

Don't Assume

We once had a presentation cum training in personality development from our office, in our office. The lady was a very fluent and influential speaker. Her Training did good for some, while some got bored, cause they didn't to learn new things. I was a person who came in between the 2 types of users.

Of all the things she taught, there is just one thing i have taken to heart. This is what she said.
"Never Assume anything, because, if you Assume, you make a ASS of U and ME"
A simple thing, but a very valuable thing. I have quite many friends, who are great at understanding me. But they do make this mistake. They sometimes assume, what i want to say or what i intend to do. Being a Gemini its difficult to say what i will do next, so its utterly worthless trying to second guess what i will do.  But they have stuck with me so far, and one of them being my best buddy for life, it shows who understanding they are.

Rants over. Well assuming means you picture something about someone based on your knowledge about that person or thing. Mainly its guess work, which will have a percentage based success ratio. But what not be able to tell clearly what he will do, instead of trying to guess it. Whats even more problematic is we assume and keep it to ourselves, instead of confirming it with the concerned person. And make more assumptions based on an assumption. How complicated that is.

So Dont Assume anything, and ask straight away. You may look like a direct person or a rude person asking away questions, and many times stupid (because you can't understand a little hint), but it would be better to ask rather than assume.

Let me know what's your opinion on this.

Michael Jackson : The Greatest Singer

Pay Your Tribute to the greatest legend of music. He who moved my feet, along with my soul. He who made me dance in my worst times. He who kept me company when i was alone. His voice was a healing factor when my heart was heavy with sadness.

When he died, i felt something was not right in the world. Not just my world, the whole world around. My Friend , a MJ Friend living in Australia, called me up just to tell me the news. But i already had heard it on Twitter. The world was buzz with the news. I don's know whether it was me or was it the collective conscience of the world, but the day was silent. Sometimes grief plays with your senses and messes you up.

Today again, after a year, i could write something about it. The feelings started again, that the beautiful voice of MJ is no more, and no more will there be songs from him. Well but its time to move on, and move on i will. But maybe i will never be able to fill that void with another voice.

Instead of English i would like to give an eulogy in Hindi.

भगवन उसकी आत्मा को शांति दे. (May God Give his spirit peace)

Indians are a Lazy Religious People

Ok Well the title says it all. Its my point of view, and YOU can disagree to it. So lets agree to disagree for the time being, and hear our my rationale.

I have been outside india many times now. I have seen the beauty of European structures and England's Scenic beauty. These are the only things i can compare India to. Europeans are religious, very religious, they gave the world the biggest religion, Christanity. They have many churches to show it off. BUT they also have other structures created by artists in name of art, and just art. See their buildings, see their parks and gardens, see their clothes. All are artistic. Where is the art in India compared to Them?

I have travelled around 50% of India, from Kashmir to Kanyakumari, and the whole eastern ghat. Just the regions above Calcutta remain. I am not a religious person, while my parents are. So its nataural for me to visit all the temples in all our visits. I visited almost every temple, each carved with beautiful sculptures and carvings, and hordes of people coming there to see it. BUT what about other structures? Where is our art anywhere else? Is religion the only place to show off our artistic abilities?

Show me nice good buildings, parks, or even any other damn structure, which is artistic. In a population of a billion people there might be atleast 10 lakh people who must be artistic. But why are there only around 10 thousand artistic structures found, all over India?

That is why i say, we are lazy religious people. All we want is to pray to God to help us in our bad times. And in the good times we keep on lazzing around?

What do you do on your weekends? I hope its not sleeping around on your butts.

BTW the image is of Dilwara Temple in Abu. A must see. It is one of the best artistry i have seen. You can spend the whole day just looking at the beautiful carvings. Give it a shot if you are living in Guajrat or Rajasthan.

Thats ME after eating my Wife's Delicious Food :) and i mean delicious in a non joking manner. She really makes hot tasty delicious food. So no smart ass comments

Things to do for 2010

We're just about done 2009. On January, 1, 2010, you get a fresh 365 days. A new chance. To create the single best year of your life to date. Most will waste this opportunity and make the new year a repeat of the one just past. Sad. But true. But a few will wake up to the possibility and do 7 things that will ensure 2010 is the most unforgettable twelve months they have experienced yet. Want to be one of the fortunate few? Here's what to do:

Step #1: Evaluate 2009. Do a written story recording what went well this past year and, even more importantly, what areas you could improve on. Also list all your wins and as many high points as you can recall. Get a clear picture of how you showed up.

Step #2: Set Your Theme. Come up with a theme for 2010. It may be "The Year of Financial Freedom" or "The Year of Work Excellence" or "The Year of Fearlessness". But get a theme into a document you can start reviewing every week.

Step #3: Create a Mission. The next step is to develop a one paragraph mission statement and put it into this document. Clarity precedes mastery so the more clear your ultimate mountaintop for 2010 is, the greater your focus will be. And the most positive results you'll see.

Step #4: List Your Big 5. OK, now ask yourself this powerful self-coaching question: "What 5 things need to happen between now and December 31, 2010 for this to have been the single most successful year of my life to date?" Write down those five goals as simply and clearly as possible into this document.

Step #5: Sequence Your Big 5. Now break your Big 5 down into quarterly goals. Set 5 core goals for the first/second/third and fourth quarters of 2010 to ensure you nail your Big 5. Review these every week. Reflect on them everyday if you really want to win. Make these strategic objectives the sole focus of your life.

Step #6: Refocus Every Morning. Life's job is to distract you. Your job is to stay staggeringly focused on what's most important. Take 15 minutes during your morning resetting period to reflect on your goals, to envision your best moves and to track out a day that's productive, passionate and fun.

Step #7: Get Devoted to Learning. The #1 skill of super successful people is that they are relentless learners. While others are wasting time on low-value websites or watching mindless reality tv shows, they are listening to audio programs, studying books on leadership and success and basically creating a rich, beautiful and meaningful life. As you journey through each day of 2010, make the time to fuel your brain with ideas on excellence and creating your absolute best. Nothing's more important than that. And please remember that all it takes is a single idea to transform the way you lead and how you live.

Looong Time

Its been a long time since i have written everything, but I have become so much pratical that i cannot write anything philosophical. Well anyway. Looking forward to change that and become the old slim trim vishwas again who used to be philosophical. :)